What a service!!!
Marriage isn’t just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together — a culture rich with the word of God. Happy couples create a family culture that includes both of their dreams. In being open to each other’s perspectives and opinions, kingdom cultured couples naturally come together. Word driven couples are a team that consults scriptural guidance first before their hurts. They make decisions together and search out common ground. Letting your partner influence you isn’t about having one person hold the reins; it’s about honoring and respecting both people in the relationship. Remember, to be tolerant of each other’s faults creates a lasting anchor for every marital relationship. Marital sustainability is impossible until you can accept your partner’s flaws and get over it.
90% of breakups turn ugly because of anger -because one of the two people start letting anger take over them and just give in and loose control, don’t let that happen to you. While it’s pretty natural and expected to be angry in such situations, it’s highly unhealthy for both of you. I’ve seen a lot of people who talk things out without being angry, anger just ruins the entire point of trying to talk things out, it wastes every effort and leaves people more angry and upset. Be calm and be gentle and kind with your words, you don’t want to have any negativity and you don’t want to have any regrets later. Trust me, you’ll hate yourself after a few months if you’re the one who got angry and broke up. It’s a different and peaceful feeling when you know you didn’t lash out and you kept your cool, trust me.
A WORD FOR THE SINGLES
You can use your time as a single person to sit around feeling depressed and lonely. You can waste a lot of time in a frantic search for a companion where you fill all your spare time with being around people. Or, you can use it to seek the Lord in His Word and in prayer. If you use your time to read and study God’s Word, to read good Christian books, to pray and to serve the Lord in some capacity, when God introduces you to your life partner, you will be mature enough for the responsibilities of Christian marriage. If you want a godly mate, you’ve got to become the kind of person -the kind of person you want to marry-would want to marry, namely, a godly person!
Be prideful of your singleness. Use it for self investment and development. Flirt-less. Add value to your state of being. Stay focused on your studies if you are a student. Stay focused on work if you are the working class. Be innovative, read a lot. Balance your spiritual life with Intellectual soundness. Stay away from sex, it entangles.
God bless you